Yesterday I was talking to someone I golf with. I had mentioned wands and wood and making things a few times to him but as he stood in my driveway we really talked about what I make and for whom. He blinked a few times and said “Witches?” I said yes I’m a witch and I make wands for them. That’s when he confided that he was a Born Again Christian.
I must admit that I was probably as surprised at his revelation as he was at mine. I don’t think of people as Born Again since I don’t really know any, or at least I didn’t think I did. That’s when I remembered the two things I learned when I came down south decades ago; that one most people think that everyone is a form of Christian; Christian Assumptive, and that two most everyone I meet assumes that I am straight because I am married; Hetero Assumptive.
I am just as guilty, though. I make the Assumptions that most people I meet are Orientation Acceptant and that most folks I hang out with are Pagan Acceptant. Fortunately my new golf friend is both but we don’t talk religion, which is probably good since golf has a way of bringing out the worse in any religion when you are playing badly and we are vying for who gets that honor.
So I ask you all: Are you Assumptive? Do you assume that someone is like you because they look the part or act the part or talk the part? Does a woman or man with a wedding ring make you think that there is an opposite sex spouse waiting somewhere for this person? If the individual is wearing something other than a cross do you look past that and think it’s just jewelry, even though it may be an Ankh or a Pentagram, or a Thor’s Hammer, or a Celtic Tree? And does it really matter?
Some on this list may say yes it matters greatly. However I will be assumptive one more time. I think that most on this blog will say “who gives a Darn.” Let’s all be Acceptive Assumptive.